Pleasure

  • Sexual pleasure is the feeling we get when we are sexually aroused.  Sexual pleasure is healthy and enhances our well-being!
  • Sexual arousal is the body’s response to sexual stimulation.  We can become aroused from all senses: hear, see, smell, taste, or touch.
  • Sexual arousal can happen in real life or in our imaginations and dreams. We may become very aroused when we touch our erogenous zones, when a partner touches them, or when we touch a partner’s.
  • Erogenous zones are areas of the skin that are extremely sensitive to sensual touch.  Some common erogenous zones are: the glans of the clitoris or penis, arms, back, butt, ears, nipples, and vaginas.  All areas of the skin can be erogenous! Everyone has areas of likes and dislikes, so it varies from person to person.
  • The sexual pleasure cycle is a pattern of changes in our bodies and what we feel in our sexual pleasure.
  • There are 5 stages in the sexual pleasure cycle: desire, excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution.  Some or all of the steps are achieved in sexual experiences (even while dreaming).
  • The desire stage involves erotic thoughts.  These thoughts can come from seeing a person, or having a special look from the person.  The desire phase can last for weeks or even months before sexual contact happens. 
  • The excitement stage is about the body’s response to desire.  There are noticeable changes in our bodies.  For women this may include: racing heart rates, nipples become erect, sexual flush (red or darkening of the skin), clitoris swells or enlarges.  Men may experience:  racing heart rates, sexual flush and the penis becomes erect. The excitement phase can be short or last for a long time. 
  • The plateau stage is our bodies feeling prolonged, intense sexual arousal.  This can happen through stroking or caressing erogenous zones.  The phase can involve vaginal, anal or oral sex.  This stage lasts as long as partners want it too.
  • The orgasm stage is the most intense phase of the sex pleasure cycle.  This happens at the end of the plateau stage.  When the sexual and muscular tension built up during the plateau phase is released in a fast series of intensely pleasurable muscular spasms.  The body also lets out endorphins which make you feel good.  Women and men orgasm differently.  Women tend to have a harder time of reaching an orgasm.  It is important to discover what works for you! Men tend to orgasm and ejaculate at the same time but they are not the same.  Ejaculation is the series of contractions that move the semen out from the penis.  Men orgasming and ejaculating vary. 
  • The resolution stage is the body’s way of returning to the natural state of how it was before the becoming sexually aroused. A man will looses his erection during this stage, women can enter the resolution stage immediately after orgasming.
  • For more information on sexual arousal visit: Planned Parenthood on Understanding Sexual Pleasure
  • Masturbation is a taboo subject that people avoid discussing, but the fact is it is very common and a healthy way to get sexual pleasure! Studies show 7 out of 10 adult men and 5 out of 10 adult women masturabate.
  • Masturbation is commonly defined as touching one’s own body, including sex organs, for sexual pleasure. Masturbation can include sex toys such as dildos and vibrators
  • Some benefits to masturabation include - a sense of well being, improved body image and self esteem, enhance sex with partners, reduce stress, improve relationship and sexual satisfaction,  and improve sleep
  • Masturabation can be an alternative to sex and is a safe practice!
  • For more information on masturbation visit: Planned Parenthood on Masturbation
  • Consent - under new california law, yes means yes.  Consent cannot be given if a person is asleep or under the influence of alcohol and drugs.
  • Masturabation is great for people who choose to abstain from sex because self pleasure is achieved through your own means.